I think I’ve met all categories of girls, the good and the bad. A lot of them are no longer in my life. Some friendships are easily left behind but few are bonds you cannot just break. I’m not the kind of person that makes or maintain a long term bond with people, I try but it doesn’t come east to me. Once the event that brought us together is over, it’s difficult to keep the connection. But that’s just a different story. Moving on, below are some of the girls I’ve known.
The Mummy Figure: I’ve met two mummy figure friends, in my Junior secondary school and at the University. They can be as blunt with the truth as your mum would. Their truthful and honest nature gives them the ability to provide advice that you can rely on. They are also good at every other thing a typical African mother is good at.
The “Missing” Best friend: If you’ve never had a friend that suddenly disappeared from your life, I do. I use to have this friend in primary school, my one true best friend in every standard of friendship. She influenced me in ways I can not begin to explain. Memories of her, still fresh and alive in my mind. We were age-grades but she mentored me with wisdom and smartness.
At such a young age, she’d already figured her life out. She knew what she wanted, she worked so hard towards it. But after graduation from primary school, she disappeared completely and I never saw her again. She was to travel to Calabar to return after the holiday but she never did. Searched and searched but she never came back to Lagos. Kept searching for Maria James on social media, nothing on the sweet, smart girl I spent time with.
The Quiet Girl: I’ve had girlfriends that prefer to listen to you talk than contribute actively to a conversation. Sometimes it feels like they’re just being themselves but most of the time, it feels like they’re hiding something. Always secretive. They’re usually shy and sometimes boring but you always need a quiet friend. When you need your quiet time, she will give it to you. She respects boundaries. Her quiet nature makes it easier for her to notice important things from little details.
The Loud Mouth: we’ve all had friends whose voice are as loud as a town crier’s. Whispers are like the impossible ability to her. She never pipes down. There is always something to laugh and talk about. You can hear her voice from three streets away. There’s never a dull moment with your loudmouth friend, she always gives her all to keep you entertained but don’t talk about things you wouldn’t want others to listen to in public.
The Wild Girls: As bad as this category of girls might make you look, they’re essential to your pack of friends. People will always paint you black for being with this category of friends but the truth is that they’re good as much as they’re bad
Girls I’ve Met – Bella’s Challenge
Life has given me three wild friends and I’m grateful to the circumstances that brought them to my life. Most of my friendship with this category ended with the betrayal of trust and loyalty but I’m still grateful that I met them. Their interesting stories and adventures are invaluable. Their bad behaviour entertains and inspires me. This category of girls will help you as much as they’ll ruin you.
The Naïve And Clueless Girl: There’s always a girl in every group of girls that never know anything. Every topic is news to her. As annoying as it can be, you can’t help but laugh at her childlike nature while imagining where they’ve been and what they’ve been learning. Sometimes, it feels like they’re faking the whole ignorant thing because of the things are just unbelievable.
The Funny Girl: My friend and cousin will make you laugh so hard that you’d start crying from laughter. Guys love funny girls, so, she’s always drawing their attention with her funny stories and expression. She can turn everything into a joke. That kind of girl that always gets you to laugh when you’re so miserable. If you’re not careful, she’ll make you laugh in a very serious situation.
The Talented Girl: I always appreciate the gifts of my friends. I’ve met a good number of talented girls good with, music, poet, art, acting and other incredible abilities. This category of girls is never shy to show you what they’ve got. Some of them do everything to show the world their skills. It’s beautiful to see a girl that’s discovered her true nature and is doing everything to make it work. Watching them chase their dreams motivates me to do the same.
The Career Driven Girl: We are all adults now, being responsible for ourselves. A lot of girls in my cycle are so busy chasing a career. All they want is to build up their future, not wait around for prince charming. I love girls who think of their future and work towards it.
I met one at the university, wasn’t friends with her. She’s constantly trying to be better, constantly working and creating connections. She’s smart and creative. Always busy with building her career. It is a surprise that she always shows up for other school activities despite her busy schedule.
The Religious Friend: A girl that loves God is unstoppable. Her fire can quench every weakness and set her up above all. This is one of the friendships I’m happy I had maintained since Junior Secondary School. A friend who is always talking to you about God and making the word of God standard for her life. I’m so happy that after so many years, she’s still consistent with her holy life.
The Confidant: This is the girl you always tell things to, you’re always comfortable to open up to her. I had this confidant that I always tell a particular part of my life to, I always feel better, know better when I do. Though she’s a talented and chronic gossip, who would trade your secret for another person’s secret, I couldn’t stop talking to her about things. At a point, I started to select the things that I tell her, never anything that would come back to haunt me if it ever got out. The friendship wasn’t that good because the only thing we talk about is someone else’s secrets. When there was no gist, we had nothing else in common to talk about. Avoid this kind of friends.
The Dormant Girls: Girls are known for being dormant and with their friendship. I have so many dormant friends currently. All we do is follow each other on social media, monitor each other’s life and achievements through social media and never really talking to each other. It’s a dead friendship that usually springs back to life on very special occasions. We become close again, catch up with some recent happenings then drift apart again. The cycle continues.
The Emotional Girls: The girl that is always feeling things extremely. Always extra with her emotions and the way she expresses them. She’s that friend that cry during movies, always sensitive to things and the feelings of others. Be it anger, love, sadness or happiness, she shows them more than other girls.
The Intelligent Girl: I think my Junior Secondary School days at Durable gave me the most important friends of my life. I met a girl and we easily became friends because of her knowledge on almost everything. Intelligent girls are automatically beautiful to me. Their minds work differently and there’s so much you can learn from them.
The Supportive Girls: Contrary to the belief that girls are always trying to tear other girls down, some girls are extremely supportive to other girls. Instead of the competition, they see something bigger than that, a connection that can one day benefit them. I’ve met a few girls that would rather help you grow than tear you down and this is the best category of girls you can have in your life. IntelNaija